Why Live Like Goose?

At sixteen years old, Gabriel “Goose” Goszulak was killed in a tragic car accident on October 19, 2015. He was a smart, kind, funny, artistic, and loving young man. He had a heart of gold and was one of the most unique people. After Goose’s death, his parents decided to begin “Live Like Goose” in his memory to help others who are suffering from grief and trauma just as they did after their loss.
Be yourself.  Goose was not afraid to be himself.  He would dress like no other and marched to his own drum.  He rode a unicycle and was an incredible individual who was liked for his uniqueness.  He was probably best known for his outrageous socks.  Colorful, and tall, they stood out and he didn’t care what others thought about it.  .

On one level, we all should be encouraged to be ourselves, to feel safe to explore our own identity and own self, and not be afraid to express our truth through how we are in the world, whether it is the clothes we wear, the sports we play, the people we love, or the things that we value about ourselves and others.

On another level, particularly in the realm of grief and trauma recovery, it is crucial to honor and be exactly who you are, express what you are feeling, and care for yourself without external pressure to move through the healing process. Honor yourself, be witnessed, and acknowledge just as you are is a precious gift we can give to ourselves and others.

Be kind.  Goose was very kind and polite, saying “please” and “thank you” when asking for something or receiving something. Gabe embodied a gentleness that touched all those around him.

Gabe’s kindness reached into his intimacy with others.  He would call his Dad “Daddy” even into his teens years, showing the kindness of genuine affection. Gabe’s hugs were amazing.  He really was a kind and gentle soul.

Kindness is in short supply in our world at this time.  Culturally, we have forgotten to remind each other how precious a kind word or gesture can be to someone in need. The kindness that arrives in the smallest moments, communicate “I see you, and I’m here with you.” We can all use more kindness in our lives.

We can show kindness to ourselves through self-care, honoring our needs, and expressing emotions nonviolently, while setting safe boundaries with others. We can be polite.  Lets not let “please” and thank you” be forgotten!

Show up.  One of my favorite stories about Goose came from a small business owner in the small town he grew up in.  She told me about how he would come and hangout with her just to keep her company when she was not busy. She shared how much that meant to her.

I am reminded of something Goose once said to me, “I am just a child. What can I do”?  Well, he did a lot in his sixteen years with us.
When we think about our own death and wonder who would show up to our funeral we are imagining our impact in other peoples’ lives. We was so proud of all the people who showed up to celebrate his young life.  He had touched a community that had been there for him as well.

Showing up is being there, being present and supportive, not interrupting, or trying to fix things, but holding space and connecting emotionally.  Showing up is being true to our word, putting our phones down and looking each other in the eyes with open hearts.

Our Story

“Goose” was the nickname of our amazing sixteen year old son, Gabriel. When “Goose” passed away in a car accident, October 19th, 2015, we were devastated. So many in his community, family, and friends came to celebrate his life.  It became even more apparent to us after his death just how much of a profound impact he had on so many people.  There were so many beautiful and touching stories we heard.  The hashtag #LiveLikeGoose started being used and money raised for a skate park he was trying to build in his community.  Goose had approached the County Council member for his district about his idea for a skate park in the White Pines near his home in Arnold, CA.  Just a week before his death, this city council member approached White Pines endorsing this project!  We are still looking for land.

As we processed the trauma of such grief we realized there were not many holistic and ongoing treatments our resources widely available.  We were using our own methods and had to pick up some other tools along the way.  It became apparent there is a need for new methods in trauma and grief recovery. We collectively do not allow ourselves to grieve properly.  We are influenced to move forward and move on.  This can lead to ongoing problems physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  From Survive to Thrive!  We are a movement.

Co-Founder Monica Martin has her Masters Degree in Psychology with an emphasis on Holistic. She was also pursuing her PhD in Transforming Trauma through Spiritual Embodiment.  Her personal practices, professional experience and education all line up to lead the way in this field! It has been her dream for years, to build a safe healing and community and transformative education model.

Co-founder and Father, Tavius, used his personal skills in recovering from mental illness and addiction to aid his recovery from grief. New resources and tools were added to his spiritual program of personal growth, service, and mentorship. Tavius brings over two decades of experience as an individual inside the medical, judicial, and social systems were he met and learned from many peers, counselors, and teachers.  Tavius’s dedication to continued spiritual growth and working with others is the bedrock and foundation for his survival which has transformed from surviving to thriving, turning inner darkness into light for others.  Tavius has published poetry, photography, and music, as part of his healing process to share with others his experience, strength and hope. “Creative expression is self-exploration.” Tavius has some non-profit and extensive entrepreneurial experience.

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San Jose, CA 95126

Tel: 408-813-2106
Info: info@livelikegoose.org

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